MY
PHILOSOPHY IS
We are the
product of our choices
So, suddenly
I'm a philosopher?
Philosopher: (somebody who seeks to
understand and explain the principles of existence and reality: a thinker who
deeply and seriously considers human affairs and life in general: somebody who
calmly and rationally reacts to events, especially adversity).
Loosely applying these definitions, I could qualify as somewhat of
a philosopher. But then, so could most writers because, what most of us do is
write about human affairs and life in general. I cannot say we all do it calmly
though. I, for one, tend to get fired-up at times and spin off into La La Land.
I am but the rough slab of bark stripped from a saw log. I lack the finesse
required to smooth out boards for making fine furniture etc. I have searched
all my life and I fail to understand some people and their ways.
My statement
We are the product of our choices
in life. Now, is that not a good philosophical statement? Of course, it is not
mine. I stole it from someone else. I pondered it for a long time and firmly
believe it. What I cannot believe is, people freely make choices that that
sends them down the wrong road. Then they turn and blame someone else for their
folly.
We all face many choices each day
from the time we wake up until we flop on our bed for another session of dreamtime.
So why should we blame our mean old boss for singling us out and firing us for
coming in late. It was our choice to stay up watching a late movie. It was our choice
to click the alarm off and fall back to sleep. However, we cuss the TV for
tempting us, and we have forty eleven excuses for not making it to work on
time. Then, we belittle our employer for sending our sorry butts a packing. We
simply fail to fess up to our ill begotten choices.
This putting the blame on someone else is something we learn in
early childhood. We are quick to point the finger-of-blame at someone else or
even something else, i.e., our sibling or our favorite toy. I believe it is the
unusual parent, who teaches their child to take responsibility for his/her
actions for bad choices.
Some personal examples
One of my earliest remembrances
is when I was around five. My mother and sister had planned a trip to the
grocery store and I was excited because Mum said I could go with them. I guess
I grew impatient waiting, so I wandered off into the neighborhood, something I recall
doing quite often. I returned to find them gone. I probably threw a fit, cried,
jumped up and down, and beat my head against the wall. I know I was very
disappointed. When they came home, I sobbed and demanded to know. "Why
didn't you take me?"
"Because you weren't here
when we left, so I thought you didn't want to go," Mum said. Now I ponder,
was my mother giving me a lesson on responsibility or was she just being mean?
Most of our choices are just
that, i.e., they are our choices freely made. No one stands beside us wielding
a whip and forcing us to make a choice. Well, maybe in some cases some of us
feel as though there is. Mostly, we are the ones making the choices, weather
right or wrong it is up to us. What we choose will eventually determine what or
where we end up at the end of the day, week, month, year, or life. We alone,
make the choice, sometimes even when made against a warning.
At about that same time, Mum warned me about standing too close to
a stray dog she had just thrown some scraps. As I stood by watching the
peaceful looking stray, I decided to help it with its meal. When I reached down
to pick up a piece to feet it, the stray nailed me. I still carry a scare on my
wrist to remind me of my ill begotten choice. Some choices have immediate
results. Others take a lifetime for us to realize our folly. I, for one, have
stacked up a long list of regrets. I hate regrets. However, good bad or
indifferent, I accept full responsibility. They have carried me down a long and
weary road of which I hope is nearing the end.
Having our cake and eating it
These days, we can choose to have
a healthy breakfast at home or we can choose to stop at one of the dozens of
fast food joints strategically placed along our route to work. You know the
ones that advertize to our children promising them fun and frolic if they only
convince their parents they will be good if they have one of those slop
burghers and half-gallon liquid flavored drinks laced with highly refined
poison, i.e., SUGAR, for breakfast, lunch and dinner. It is so easy on us busy
parents. What harm is a little fat and sugar? We make the choice.
We gladly select this form of feeding mainly to keep their
yapping, whining mouths shut. It is an easier and cheaper way for busy parents
to feed their little brats as well as themselves. These fast food chains have
convinced us that their fatty slop-burgers laced with GM, (genetically
modified) meat are healthy meals. Besides a good meal, our little butter balls
get a play toy, as well as a place to play to work off all that fat they just
ingested. This play period comes nowhere close to working off the fat-laced
double burger, large fries, and jumbo drink. Our plump kid would have to work
out for a week to rid his chunky body of half the calories in that meal. We made
the choice.
The consequences
Later, WE complain about the high
cost of medical care. What made our children's teeth so rotted? How did our
little butter balls end up with diabetes? It must be those damn fast food slop
houses. Let us sue the rascals. They have deep pockets. They need to pay.
We deny it was our choice to feed on this garbage and expose it to
our sweet vulnerable babies. We demand compensation. You worldwide food chains fooled
us and forced us to make a wrong choice. Pay up. You lied when you said your
meals were healthy. I didn't know they were laced with GM. I didn't know they
came from floor scraps drenched in bleach. Give me money to burry my kid, lots
and lots of money.
When will we ever learn?
It is quite evident we have not learned yet. These slop joints
continue to thrive and they continue to lure us into their dens of death. Like
zombies, we line up to feed on their tainted meat we have become addicted to.
They will continue as long as we choose to patronize their establishments and
as long as we allow them to continue buying off our representatives in
Washington. We made the choice, now we suffer the consequences.
Who is to blame?
Do we have
the right to complain, blame it on someone or something else? Should we sue the
food chains because we made the decision to eat their garbage instead of a
wholesome meal at home? Some have done it. People will not fess up to their ill
begotten choices. We still have not learned how to stop pointing our guilt-ridden
fingers.
We have only
ourselves to blame. Our early choices in life made us into what we have become.
Without realizing it, I learned this early in life. Maybe that is because I
have always been a loner. Loners learn early on how to make choices that mainly
benefit themselves. Well now, you say that is selfish. Maybe so, however, I
look upon it, in many cases, as self-preservation. That rather changes the picture,
does it not?
However, you
put it, it is our choice, right, wrong, or indifferent, we freely made the
choice. We may have based it on wrongful information or thinking, or jumping to
conclusions, they were decisions we freely made. This is good that we are free
to choose. Now if only we would accept our responsibility and take our whipping
without screaming the devil made me do it.
Decades
later, we cannot lay the blame on someone else. We need to suck it in and face
the truth, or find a hole and crawl into it. I found my hole, but I seldom feel
comfortable there. I have made my cot, now I wallow in it, for the end cometh. I
feel safe in the knowledge there is no hereafter and I don't have to worry
about crossing paths with those I have wronged in my life. I have regrets
aplenty, but things, that happened a lifetime ago, have done their damage and not
all the regrets in the world could undo it.
Thanks and
have a pleasant day. Have a grand New Year.
Ray