This
is my philosophy
So,
suddenly I'm a philosopher?
Philosopher: (somebody who seeks to understand and explain the principles of
existence and reality: a thinker who deeply and seriously considers human
affairs and life in general: somebody who calmly and rationally reacts to
events, especially adversity).
Loosely applying these definitions, I could qualify as somewhat of
a philosopher. So could most writers, because, what most of us do is write
about human affairs and life in general. I cannot say we all do it calmly
though. I, for one, tend to get fired-up at times and spin off into La La Land.
I am but the rough slab of bark stripped from a saw log. I lack the finesse
required to smooth out boards for making fine furniture etc. I have been
seeking all my life, and I sometimes fail to understand some people and their
ways. See there, none of what I just wrote has anything to do with what I want
to say.
My statement
We are the product of our choices in life. Now, is that not a good
philosophical statement? Of course, it is not mine. I stole it from someone
else. I pondered it for a long time and firmly believe it. What I cannot
believe or understand is, people freely make choices, that send them down their
path of life, but fail to take responsibility for them My main beef is, when
they make a wrong turn, they inevitably want to blame someone else for their folly.
We all face many choices each day from the time we wake up until
we flop on our bed for another session of dreamtime. If we happen to over sleep
or fail to hear our alarm go off and show up late at work, why do we blame our
mean old boss for singling us out and firing us? We simply fail to fess up to our
ill begotten choices.
This putting the blame on someone else is something we learn in
early childhood. We are quick to point the finger-of-blame at someone or something
else, e.g., our sibling or our favorite toy. I believe it is the unusual parent,
who teaches their child to take responsibility for his/her bad choices.
Some personal examples
One of my earliest remembrances is when I was around five. My mother
and sister had planned a trip to the grocery store and I was excited because
Mum said I could go with them. I guess I grew impatient waiting, so I wandered
off into the neighborhood, something I recall doing quite often. I returned to
find them gone. I probably threw a fit, cried, jumped up and down, and beat my
head against the wall. I know I was very disappointed. When they came home, I
sobbed and demanded to know. "Why didn't you take me?"
"Because you weren't here when we left, I thought you didn't
want to go," Mum said. Now I ponder, was my mother giving me a lesson on responsibility
or was she just being mean?
Most of our choices are just that, i.e., they are our choices
freely made. No one stands beside us wielding a whip and forcing us to make a choice.
Well, maybe in some cases some of us feel as though there is. Mostly, we are
the ones making the choices. Right or wrong, it is up to us. What we choose
will eventually determine what or where we end up at the end of the day, week,
month, year, or life. We alone, make the choice, sometimes even when made against
a warning.
At about that same time, Mum warned me about standing too close to
a stray dog she had just thrown some scraps. As I stood by watching the
peaceful looking stray, I decided to help it with its meal. When I reached down
to pick up a piece to feet it, the stray nailed me. I still carry a scar on my
wrist to remind me of my ill begotten choice. Some choices have immediate
results. Others take a lifetime for us to realize our folly. I, for one, have
stacked up a long list of regrets. I hate regrets. However, good bad or
indifferent, I accept full responsibility. They have carried me down a long and
weary road of which I hope is nearing the end.
Having our cake and eating it
too?
These days, whatever that means, we can choose to have a healthy
breakfast at home, or we can choose to stop at one of the dozens of fast food
joints strategically placed along our route to work. You know the ones that
advertize to our children promising them fun and frolic if they convince their
parents they will be good if only they have one of those slop burghers and
half-gallon liquid flavored drinks laced with highly refined poison, i.e.,
SUGAR, for breakfast, lunch and dinner. It is so easy on us busy parents. What
harm is a little fat and sugar? We
make the choice.
The truth
We gladly select this form of feeding mainly to keep their
yapping, whining mouths shut. It is an easier and cheaper way for busy parents
to feed their little brats as well as themselves. These fast food chains have
convinced us that their fatty slop-burgers laced with GM, (genetically
modified) meat are healthy meals. Besides a good meal, our little butter balls
get a play toy, as well as a place to play to work off all that fat they just
ingested. This play period comes nowhere close to working off the fat-laced
double burger, large fries, and jumbo drink. Our plump kid would have to work
out for a week to rid his chunky body of half the calories in that meal. We made the choice.
The consequences
Later, WE complain
about the high cost of medical care. What made our children's teeth so rotted?
How did our little butter balls end up with diabetes? It must be those damn
fast food slop houses. Let us sue the rascals. They have deep pockets. They
need to pay.
We deny it was our choice to feed on this garbage and expose it to
our sweet vulnerable babies. We demand compensation. You worldwide food chains fooled
us and forced us to make a wrong choice.
Pay up. You caused me to make the wrong choice.
When will we ever learn?
It is quite evident we have not learned yet. These slop joints
continue to thrive and they continue to lure us into their dens of death. Like
zombies, we line up to feed on their tainted meat we have become addicted to. They
will continue as long as we choose to patronize their establishments, and as
long as we allow them to continue buying off our representatives in Washington.
We made the choice. Should we suffer the consequences?
Conclusions
Do we have the right to complain, blame it on someone or something
else? Should we sue the food chains because we made the decision to eat their
garbage instead of a wholesome meal at home? Some have. People will not fess up
to their ill begotten choices. We still have not learned how to stop pointing
our guilt-ridden fingers.
We have only ourselves to blame. Our early choices in life made us
into what we have become. Without realizing it, I learned this early in life.
Maybe that is because I have always been a loner. Loners learn early on how to
make choices that mainly benefit themselves. Well now, you say that is selfishness.
Maybe so, however, I look upon it, in many cases, as self-preservation. That rather
changes the picture, does it not?
However, you put it, it is our choice, right wrong, or indifferent,
we freely made the choice. We may have based it on wrongful information or
thinking, or jumped to conclusions, they were decisions we freely made. This having
a choice is good. Now if only we would accept our responsibility and take our whipping
without screaming, "The devil made me do it."
Decades later, we cannot lay the blame on someone else. We need to
suck it in and face the truth, or find a hole and crawl into it. I found my
hole, but I seldom feel comfortable there. I have made my bed, now I flounder
in it, for the end soon cometh. Thanks and have a pleasant day.
Ray
